Day 18: Moderation Is Key!

Is All Or Nothing The Right Approach? Turn and look the other way…and Have Zero Regrets!

Cast your vision with faith on what is still to come on this adventure called life. In order to change we must be sick and tired of being sick and tired, ready to move on. Being weak is just as much a choice as choosing to be strong. The secret to change is to focus all your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the NEW YOU and then from that seeds the new world surrounding you. Just stop looking in the past for your greatest moments. You can’t win at life by building up a dusty storage of memories or keeping score of all the points made yesterday unless you are leveraging those experiences and calculations to make strategic improvements going forward. Instead of thinking about what you had, who you used to be, how about who you are going to be with this next round in front of you, as perhaps your greatest moments still to come.

We’re not going to waste any of your time here. We want you to get to work on the right stuff in the right way…and right away, so the “new you” can be here to stay, at least for good while! Go out today and truly live, really…BRING IT! Forget past mistakes, past failures… Forget everything except what you are going to do now, who you are going to be now in this moment and into the next! A strong person (which you are) knows how to be quiet, shed a tear for a moment, and then pick up his or her gloves and fight again for their true path in life.

Time is free, but it’s priceless. You can’t own it, but you can use it. You can’t keep it, but you can spend it. Once you’ve lost it, you can never get it back. But you can choose to let go of painful aspects of the past that just aren’t serving you right now and start living today without fear of your tomorrows… Live life to the fullest, holding NOTHING back, having zero regrets to look back on! Put in the time! If it’s important enough to you, then you will make the time to do it—PRIORITIZE! At GET IT BACK UNIVERSITY we aren’t afraid to push you past your self-imposed limitations, to challenge your norm and inspire greatness deep from within! Are you? If you are, that’s what we are here for.

So is ALL or NOTHING the way to go through life? One of my hardest lessons in life has been seeing the greys in life and I don’t mean the aliens with the big eyes. I’m talking about what exists between black and white thinking that relieves the pains. Meaning, the meaning, the heavy burden of value we place on things can cause some significant disasters in our life…until that is we get the lesson, and change, even remove the original meaning we added in. Then and only then the experience we are having with the memory or what’s unfolding right in front of us can be completely transformed, we can experience blissful freedom. If you want to experience something else in your reality it can begin by transforming your thought process around it and making a decision to look at something from a different healthier perspective and then acting on that new view detached from outcome. This approach transforms your word starting from the inside out and is more structurally sound for building upon.

Get Out Of The All Or Nothing Mentality

Do you find yourself swinging back and forth between good and bad days? One day you do everything “perfect” and the next day is a complete disaster? When you’re doing good, everything is easy and you’re making the right food choices, exercising and feeling great. When you’re doing bad, all the comfort foods sneak back in, the exercise goes out the window and the guilt and self-loathing starts creeping in. It’s a dangerous and slippery slope. Maybe you’ve even had good and bad weeks or good and bad months. The all-or-nothing game is not only unhealthy but it’s exhausting and it will never, ever work. Aren’t you ready to try a new approach and get out of the feeling of being trapped?

If you’ve started identifying certain foods as “good” or “bad,” then you’ve already assigned a negative energy to the “bad” foods. That means if YOU eat that food, you are also bad (in your subconscious mind that is). After all, anyone who is good will only east good foods, right? If you’ve tried this road before, you already know the way it goes. No one can eat perfectly “good” all the time. So when you’re in the “good” phase and you eat a “bad” food, you’re already beating yourself up before you even clean up the plate. Then, the guilt, shame and negative self-talk starts. Why did I do that? Why did I mess up? Now I feel bad.  Well, since I messed up a little, I might as all go for it. What other “bad” food do I want? And before you know it, you’re out of control and back in the “bad” day, week or month phase. It’s a viscous cycle that will never be broken unless you start looking at your food and yourself in a different way.  Because really, it’s not even about the food. It’s about you!

Stop the old thinking. Remember, the thoughts you have now are creating your future. Telling yourself that you’re not good enough hasn’t worked for years and will only set you up for a future of not feeling good enough. What if you are good enough right now? Get out of the negative self-talk.  It will never serve your greater good and it will never help you feel better. If you catch yourself slipping down the self-loathing slope, STOP your thought. Replace it with a more positive thought. Try these positive affirmations. Repeat over and over until you start to feel better:

  • I am who I am and who I am is okay!
  • Today is a new day and a new beginning, a chance to be whomever I want to be.
  • I let go of old limitations. I am at peace with myself. I am motivated!
  • I forgive those who have harmed me in my past and peacefully detach from them.\
  • I am in the process of making positive changes in all areas of my life.

Reward yourself (yes, it’s okay!). This goes completely against where you were before so brace yourself. See your “good” foods as the nutrient-dense and health-filled choices you make every day to support your journey towards better health. Then, look at your “bad” foods as a reward food or comfort food to treat yourself for all the great work you’ve done all week. Start with a “treat day” once a week. Choose one favorite drink and one favorite food. (No, you can’t fill your cart with a week’s worth of junk and gorge yourself all day. It doesn’t work like that!) Get the best quality and most expensive version of your favorite food because you deserve the very best. Eat that food with pride and joy. You’re only 100% human. No one is asking you to be 100% perfect. Do you know anyone who has never made a mistake? Forgive yourself for any and all mistakes you made in the past. You are worthy! The future is where your power lies. You’re doing the very best you can, and when you know more, you will do better! Changing the way you look at yourself will help you to change the way you look at your food, and that will also help you to change the way you look at yourself.

You only get a treat day if you’ve done good all week. That’s how it works. After one month, spread out your “treat day” to once every two weeks. You can also use your reward day for a party, wedding or special occasion, but in general it’s best to choose to same day, say Friday or Saturday. After three months, you’re ready to have just one treat day per month. Life is quite comfortable and joyful when you still occasionally get to indulge. Remember, one treat day per month means that 353 days per year you are eating well. 12 days per year you’re rewarding yourself for a job well done. Over the course of your life, can you see where the power lies? You’re doing SO MUCH GOOD for your body and your health! Inhale, exhale. You can do this! Here’s the real secret: Over time, you won’t have to count your reward days because you will naturally make the right choices and eventually you won’t even want those reward foods anymore. It happens organically and easily when you change the way you think!) 4-hour or 4-minute or 4-second diets will never work because they keep you in the instant result mindset. Think healthy habits for a long and happy life instead!

You can break the cycle of the all or nothing mentality. No one is born an expert. Everyone has to work hard to get results. But, you have to do the work and you have to work at it every day.  It’s okay to reward yourself for a job well done. You are the master of your destiny. You have the power to create the life you want. Start by loving yourself …..and watch as the transformation unfolds.

Here’s an enjoyable way to get it all back or better yet, something fresh and new, perhaps better than before. Set your big picture, inspirational goals and then make mini MILESTONE goals/ check-ins to keep you on track and get you all the way there, with time to spare. Of course then it’s time to commit and start taking real-action. Okay, get after it or get some help and motivation to get started.